This poem came to my mind as I reflected upon comments I have heard people say about “putting up walls” to avoid being hurt again, and being “afraid to trust,” which causes them to run when a relationship begins to get serious.

Some people are emotionally hiding in the false security of a lie that declares,  “God wants me to remain single.”  They may enjoy being single, but if the truth was told, some of us only enjoy it because we are safe from being hurt again, and free from more responsibility.  We are actually being selfish and not trusting God, when His desire may be to use us to be a blessing to someone, even though the emotional scars of the past may, at times, not allow us to think we can be.  God showed me I was doing that…how about you?

Some of us may be called to be single for a season, or to remain single, and He can use us in mighty ways…if we let Him.  But if we have had a Biblical divorce, because of abandonment and/or adultery, (1 Corinthians 7:15) (Matthew 19:8) and are free to remarry, God delights in binding two hearts together that love Him, and desire to live for Him to bring Him glory.

Satan’s desire is to…

1)Keep us in bondage so that we will not know the truth of God’s Word on these issues

2)Cause us to become emotionally paralyzed by bringing to our minds the haunting, painful words spoken to us in the past

3)Keep us divided by fear and mistrust, because he knows how much more powerful two lives can be, if they are on fire for God, and united as one in Christ.

It’s time for us to seek God and repent, if necessary, and search His Word for His Truth that can set us free to love again, so ultimately we can bring glory to God, and be more effective in sharing God’s truth to a lost and dying world.


Sometimes we build walls not to keep others out, but to see if someone will care enough to tear them down.



Everywhere I go, I see lonely women and lonely men,

Afraid to trust and try again,

Building walls around their hearts,

So no emotions ever start,

Keeping all the pain inside,

Pulling back in fear to hide,

“Content” to stay just as I am,

“Convinced” that this must be God’s  plan,

When deep inside we’re longing for,

A hand to hold, and so much more, 

Lord, You cleansed us from our sin and shame,

Now free us of our pain,

From spoken words and shattered dreams,

And unforgiveness that remains,

Tear down the walls, remove our pride,

Place Your love and trust inside, 

Lord, set us free, so we might be, a reflection of Your Glory, (2 Corin. 3:18)

Bring hearts ablaze, with holy praise, to tell our amazing story, (Psalm 105:1-3, 126:2,3)

Of two lives linked by Your Spirit’s power, (Isaiah 34:16)   (Eccles. 4:12)

To speak Your Truth in this final hour.  (Phil. 2:14-16) (2 Corin. 5:9-11,14,17-20 6:2)


Written in 2007 by Mary K. Dalke/Living For His Glory/Living4HisGlory

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“You will call your walls Salvation, and your gates Praise.”  Isaiah 60:18


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1 Corinthians 7:15  “But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so.  A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”

Matthew 19:9  “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman, commits adultery.”

2 Corinthians 3:18  “And we, with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”

Psalm  105:1-3  ” Give thanks to the LORD, call on His name; make known among the nations what he has done.  Sing to him, sing praise to him; tell of all his wonderful acts.  Glory to his name; let the hearts of those who seek the LORD rejoice.”

Psalm 126:2,3  “Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy, Then it was said among the nations,  “The LORD has done great things for them.”  The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.”

Isaiah 34:16  “None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate.  For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12  “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Philippians 2:14-16  “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life–in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing.”

2 Corinthians 5:9-11, 14,17-20 6:2  “So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it.  For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.  Since we know what it is to fear the Lord, we try to persuade men.  For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died.  And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.  Therefore,if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!  All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them.  And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.  We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us.  We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.  “I tell you, now is the time of God’s favor, now is the day of salvation.”

Scriptures taken from the Holy Bible New International Version® Copyright© 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved.

 For Biblical teaching on marriage, divorce, and remarriage, you may want to consider the following books…

1) ‘WHAT ABOUT DIVORCE?,’   An Exegetical  Exposition from the Greek Text of Matthew 5:27-32;  19:2-12;  Mark 10:2-12;  Luke 16:18;  Romans 7:1-3

2)   ‘MAY I DIVORCE AND REMARRY?’  Based on 1 Corinthians 7.   Both books are written by Spiros Zodhiates.  Also…

3)  ‘MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, AND REMARRIAGE IN THE BIBLE’  … A Fresh Look At What Scripture Teaches.   Written by Jay E. Adams.


MARRIAGE AFTER DIVORCE …A Web Site with Biblical answers to your questions at…