Archive for September, 2009


Sometimes,  people who are supposed to love us, choose to say things to us that emotionally damages and traps us into a mindset where we believe the painful and emotionally destructive words that are spoken to us.  Sometimes they may even choose to do things physically to us, that makes our worth as a person feel as if it amounts to nothing.

Even though thankfully, I was never physically abused as some of you who are reading this right now, sadly may have been, those of us who have been emotionally abused, can still hurt just as deeply.  The wounds may not be seen with the human eye, but the damage is still there, and manifests itself in many different ways…a lack of trust, fear of reaching out to someone to express an interest because of feeling inadequate, fear of being rejected, fear of speaking with others because of a lack of confidence, fear of failure because of the constant echo of cruel words silently ringing in one’s ears …the list could go on and on, I am sure.

I was trapped in various types of fear, as many of you were and sadly some of you still are.  Although I don’t claim to be completely free from fear, God has brought me a long way! 

This may not sound like much to many of you, but recently I traveled to Texas by plane all on my own for the first time, and have done many other things recently, that I would not have been able to do in the past, because of being tied to the false image of who I believed I was, based on the way I was treated in my past.  These recent experiences filled me with a deep sense of freedom and confidence in who I am becoming in Christ, and inspired me to write this short poem in praise to God, for what I see Him doing in my life.  I hope it will be a source of encouragement to you, and put a desire within your hearts to strive to know God more through spending more  time with Him in prayer and in His Word.

God is amazing!!  The more time we spend in His Word, the more we get to know Him.   And when we begin to believe and cling to the truth presented to us in His Word, and see His faithfulness to help us in the situations we face, we come to the point of learning that we can trust Him.  It is then that He is able to begin the process of renewing our minds with the truth of His Word, and bring us to the point when true and total healing and transformation can begin to take place in our lives.  What joy and freedom awaits those who are willing to trust Him!

Yes, there may still be times when the ‘enemy of our souls’ may get a hold on us for a few moments, by bringing to our minds the painful experiences in our past, or we may even hear a harsh whisper of the cruel words now and then, but when that happens, we must not allow those lies to once again get a hold on us!  We need to cling to the truth in God’s Word that we must put to memory…

“If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed!”  (John 8:36) KJV



I’m letting go of who I was, of all the fear and pain,

I’m reaching out to You, O Lord, Your strength is mine to gain, 

I’m pressing on to know You more, to become the woman You desire me to be,

No longer held back by emotional chains of my past, for You have set me free!!

Copyright © 2009 Mary K. Dalke/Living4HisGlory/LivingForHisGlory Written Sept. 26, 2009

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It is the desire of my heart to express through this poem, my deep appreciation to God for giving me His grace that carried me through a very long and heart-wrenching time in my life.

Sadly, some turn to drugs or other means, to escape from the pain of their past and present circumstances.  I can tell you that I don’t know how I would have made it if God had not chosen to reveal Himself to me through His Word and given me His grace that proved to be sufficient for me, and His peace that surpassed all human understanding. 

When the emotionally painful events began to take place right before I married, I had the knowledge of God, but I did not know Jesus Christ personally as my Savior from sin and Lord of my life, even though I had always prayed and desired to know Him much more deeply than I did. I was basically a ‘nice person,’ as many of us would say that we are, and a religious one as well, but I was eternally lost as every other religious person is, because I had (wrongly) placed my trust in the kind acts that I did for others, as well as my church attendance and religious practices as being enough to allow me entrance into heaven after I died.

I did everything I could to make my marriage work and to try and make my husband realize that there was a problem. When he expressed no concern and showed no loving, caring response after I poured out my heart to him, and instead chose to be sarcastic, I withdrew within myself and went into a deep depression. My home was in disarray, because it was a reflection of the hopelessness that I felt. 

God used everything I went through to bring me to the end of myself, so that I would cry out to Him. He was there through it all, just waiting for the moment when He would choose to reveal Himself to me. Ironically, as I shared in one of my other poems, He used my husband to bring me home a Bible, and as I began to read it, God made Himself more real to me than I could ever have imagined, and I surrendered my life to Him, with all the sin, hopelessness, fear, rejection, and hurt. God began a deep healing process in my mind and heart, and His strength was made perfect in my weakness, and His grace proved to be abundantly sufficient to me. I was becoming a new creation in Christ. 

Even though I wanted God to change the circumstances and my husband, He chose instead to change me, and I will be ever so grateful to God for using all the pain I went through, just so that I could know Him in the way that I do.  I came to know God in a way that I never would have, if things weren’t so painful.  Sometimes I experienced  hurt so deep, that  it caused me to curl up into a fetal position as I cried out to Him from the very depths of my being. 

If I had the choice to go through it all again, I would not hesitate to say ‘Yes,’ because I have come to know God’s love, faithfulness,  mercy,  grace, and His Word, in ways that I could never have known them without going through all the pain that I did.

My poem will give you just a glimpse of how real God became to me. The book I am in the process of writing about my life, will reveal much more. 

My deepest desire is to let you know  how real He can become to you in the midst of your painful circumstances, …if only you will choose to cry out to Him. No matter how overwhelming your circumstances may seem, and how hopeless you may feel, God wants SO much to reveal His love and truth to you. 

I pray for all of you who read this, that you will choose to seek Him in the midst of your pain, and read His Word, the Bible.  And if you do not know Him personally, I pray that you will ask Him to forgive you of your sin, be willing to turn from your sin with His help, and place your complete trust in the fact that He died in your place on the cross, to provide complete payment for your sin and guilt, so that you can be accepted by God and become His child.  He promises to never leave or forsake you, and no matter what you will face in life, His grace is sufficient.

Lord, I thank you for using all the pain I went through, to draw me to Yourself.  I thank You for revealing Your love and truth to me through Your Word, and for saving me from sin and the eternal consequences of  my sin in hell. I thank you for Your mercy and grace, and choosing  continually to reveal Your truth and Yourself to me through Your Word in such amazing ways as I waited and prayed, and by Your grace, chose to live for You even after I saw my marriage end in divorce. 

You are worthy of all praise –no matter what.  And if I had the choice to go through it all again, I would not hesitate to say, ‘Yes,’ because in my times of prayer with You, being in Your Word, and crying out to You, I have come to know You and Your love, grace, mercy, and faithfulness, in ways that I would never have come to know You without going through all the pain that I did. Thank You.

Here are some Scriptures that brought me through those years of fear and loneliness, and I pray they will be a source of hope and encouragement to you as well:

“Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.”  (Deuteronomy 31:6)

“Have I not commanded you?  Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)

“But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power rests on me.  For when I am weak then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9,10)

“The LORD will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit-a wife who married young, only to be rejected,  says your God.” (Isaiah 54:6)

“Do not fret because of evil men or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.  Delight yourself in the LORD and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in Him and He will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.  Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for Him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.  Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it leads only to evil.  For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the LORD, will inherit the land.” (Psalm 37:1-9)

“I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me.  I have set the LORD always before me.  Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” (Psalm 16:8)

“Let the beloved of the LORD rest secure in Him, for He shields him all day long, and the one the LORD loves rests between His shoulders.” (Deuteronomy 33:12)

“But You are a shield around me, O LORD; You bestow glory on me and lift up my head.” (Psalm 3:3)

Scriptures taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®.  Copyright© 1973, 1978, 1984  International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved.



It was Your grace that carried me through the pain,

As in Your presence and in Your Word I chose to remain,

You saw every tear that fell from my eyes,

When in my commitment to You, I chose never to compromise,

You heard every harsh word that began from the start,

You saw every act of rejection that broke my heart, 

You saw every attempt I made until I was at a loss,

You used all the heartbreak to bring me to Your cross. 

You took away my sorrow, and gave me joy instead,

You heard my desperate cry for help, You were the lifter of my head. 

You shattered my darkness, You rescued me from the pain,

You were there in my weakness, Your strength was mine to gain.

You delivered me from fear with Your outstretched hand,

You took away my shame, and by Your grace I now stand. 

If I had the choice to relive the past, or to avoid all the pain I went through,

I would choose to go through it all over again… just to know You as I do.

Copyright©2009 Mary K. Dalke/Living4HisGlory/LivingForHisGlory All rights reserved.

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The circumstances of life can be very overwhelming at times, even for us who are believers in Christ.  We sometimes think that God will continually bless us because we are His own, and we somehow lose sight of the fact that trials come not only to test our faith, but also to see if our faith is genuine or not. 

The loss of a job, the tragic death of a child or another loved one from some sickness, the end of a marriage…sometimes when tragedy strikes,  we may  be tempted to turn from Him and even doubt His very existence.  

Many things also happen because of sinful choices we have made, or we may suffer from the consequences of the sinful choices that others  have made.  But no matter what the reason may be, we must make the decision to continue to live for Him in spite of the circumstances we see with our limited understanding. 

As the saying goes,  “If you can’t trust His hand, trust His heart.”   God sees the big picture; He sees things with an eternal perspective, and knows what it will take to cause someone with a heart of stone, to eventually have a heart of flesh,  and surrender to Him, even if it takes the death of a loved one to get their attention. 

God’s Word says that sometimes…   “The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.”  (Isaiah 57:1)  God’s Word also says…’He is not willing for anyone to perish but for everyone to come to repentance.’  (2 Peter 3:9)  Hell is eternal fire and torment, (Matthew 18:7-9, 25:41) (Luke 16:23-31) and because God is omniscient, He has the knowledge of which children will one day grow up and bring unspeakable pain to many, and would never receive Jesus as Savior and Lord to begin with.  So for Him to choose to allow them to die, knowing that because of deep grief others will cry out to Him and receive eternal life, the death of these children  would then be considered as merciful acts, if they are viewed through His ability to know all things.    

Sometimes a marriage will end, not because God is incapable of restoring the marriage, but because He will not violate the free will of the person who chooses to no longer love and stay committed to their partner.  That also holds true in cases when during the course of a marriage, one person becomes a believer and the unbelieving person chooses to emotionally and physically abandon their partner. 

Even though we may never understand why He allows some of the  things that happen to us in life,  we must choose to trust Him in the painful moments.  If we make the choice to draw closer to God, and read His Word during these times of trials,  He will choose to reveal Himself and His wisdom to us, and we will come to know Him in a deeper way than during the times of blessings He allows in our lives. 

It’s in the valley that our faith is not only tested, but also where we have the greatest opportunities to grow.  We learn to turn to Him and see how His strength can be made perfect in our weakness.  We realize we can trust Him, as we take that first step of faith, and see how He delivers us from fear, as we see His faithfulness to give us the courage to deal with the sometimes overwhelming circumstances we face.  We also come to realize that when we pray and learn to let go and trust Him, it is  then that we experience His peace that surpasses all human understanding.  

As we choose to submit and not run from each trial that life brings our way, and allow Him to use them to shape and mold us, He will then begin to build His strength and character in us. One day we will be able to see how we are no longer who we once were, even though  we are  not yet all He desires us to be. 

We can also use these trials as opportunities to share the gospel with others, and allow them to know  how receiving His love and forgiveness through Christ alone, can give them His peace, and the ability to face whatever life may bring their way.

No matter how turbulent the storms of life may be, we will  have His peace and strength if we choose to trust Him and face each trial…resting  in His hands.



“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.  If anyone lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”  (James 1:2-5)

“Praise be to the God of our Lord Jesus Christ!  In His great mercy He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade–kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.  In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.  These have come so that your faith–of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire–may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.”  (1 Peter 1:3-7)

“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I will come forth as gold.”  (Job 23:10)

 Scriptures taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version® .  Copyright© 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved.




You are the potter, I am the clay,

You continue to mold me in Your own special way,

Using life’s pain and pressure, guided by Your loving hands,

Your will is for me to submit to each trial, for this is what You desire

and demand. 

Conforming me to Christ’s image, transforming my mind with Your Word,

Is the goal of each trial that You send me,

Even though that truth  is sometimes ignored and not heard.

I desire for the trial to be over, to see Your blessings and not always feel pain,

But I forget how when I go through each trial, 

A deeper trust and understanding of You is what I gain.

You are always so faithful, to give me Your strength and Your grace,

And when the pressure becomes overwhelming, You become my hiding place.

The battles may rage all around me, attempting to destroy my trust and faith

in You,

Because I may not understand why certain things happen,

But cling to You is what I must still choose to do. 

You free me from sin and bondage, so I’ll never be the same,

Your ultimate purpose is not for me,

But that my life would bring glory to Your name.

So Lord, by Your grace I’ll submit to each trial,

And pray and trust You as Your Word commands,

Then I’ll be at perfect peace as you shape and you mold me…resting

in Your hands.

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Written on September 12, 2009 by Mary K. Dalke/Living4HisGlory/LivingForHisGlory

Copyright © 2009 All rights reserved.

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