Being a father is a privilege and a very important responsibility.  If you are a Christian, you can have a wonderful influence on your children, as you seek to share the truth of God’s Word with them, so they will be able to see the difference in the way the world views things, and how God shows us to live.  They will come to understand that there is such a thing as ‘moral absolutes,’ at a time when, for the most part, many have rejected God and live according to the dictates of their own sinful desires, and believe there is no such thing as absolute truth.

Hollywood paints many a picture of sinful behavior as being ‘normal,’ acceptable, and even glamorous in movies, but our children need to see God’s standard of right and wrong, and come to understand that there are consequences to the choices they make. 

Most importantly, they need to come to know that God is Holy, but that He is also a God of mercy and grace, and learn the extent He went to in order to provide our forgiveness through the sacrifice of His One and only Son, Jesus Christ; taking God’s wrath, intended for each of us upon Himself, He satisfied God’s wrath He has towards us for our sins.  Now we can have a personal relationship with Him, if we choose to turn from sin, (repent) and place our trust completely in Jesus’ death, burial, and bodily resurrection, as our only way of being accepted by God, and having eternal life in heaven.

Because my ‘husband’ left me when my children were very young, I had the complete responsibility of training them to know right from wrong, and disciplining them when they chose not to obey.  At times I was guilty of speaking words to my children in a tone of anger, but they were rooted in love and fear.  Fear, because I saw them headed in the wrong direction by the choices I saw them making, and I loved them so much and was overcome by fear, because I realized I was losing control over them, now that they were old enough to make their own choices.

When God helped me to see my reactions and responses were wrong, I realized I had to release them to God and learn to trust Him completely with them.  I prayed for His wisdom and grace, and God helped me learn to respond to them in love, and to choose my words carefully, so I would do my best to reach them with His truth and have no regrets.

Knowing that I had to stand before God one day and answer for the way I raised them, gave me the courage when they reached their teen years to say,  “No,” to them, in spite of the reaction I knew they would probably have towards me.  Even though I would always try to do it in love, and give my reasons based upon the truth of God’s Word that I would share with them, and tell them how I would one day have to answer for the way I raised them, there were times when they chose not to speak to me for up to two weeks.  As much as it hurt for them to treat me that way, I had God’s peace in my heart because I chose to obey God and lovingly confront their behavior,  and not ignore it, which I was guilty of doing at times, out of fear or laziness, or knowing the rejection I would receive from them.

It’s sometimes easier to ignore their sinful behavior, but in our hearts we know if we love our children and sincerely love God, then we will choose to turn to God for the wisdom we need to handle the situation the way He would want  us to, and to share God’s truth with them, and trust God to deal with them.

All that to say to you fathers, on this Father’s Day, (or whenever you find yourself reading this)…please have God’s heart for your children, and be more to them than just their friend, as God showed me that I needed to be.  Next to honoring God and loving your wife, if God has blessed you with one, let this privilege and honor of training your children be next of what’s important in your life.  The time comes when they need to have boundaries laid to protect them, to correct them, and to show your love for them, even if they try to manipulate you in an attempt to cause you to back down.

Sometimes we tell our children not to do something, and then they say ‘why should they, if we are doing the very same wrong things we are telling them not to do.’  That’s God’s way of making us take a loooong hard look at our own lives, to make us realize we are setting an example for them, and we need to deal with and turn from the sinful behavior in our lives.  God used my children when they were young, to shine a light on my sinful behavior and made me realize I had to turn from it with His strength to honor God, and to show my sincere commitment to Him.

What is God dealing with you about?  If you are a true Christian, your desire should be to glorify God by the way you live your life, and your desire should also be to run from anything that puts impure or wrong thoughts in your mind (2 Timothy 2:22) so you can show your love and commitment to Christ, and also to lead your children by example.

If you are not a Christian, or have accepted Jesus as Savior but have not yet fully surrendered your life by choosing to turn from sin to show your love for God and the sincerity of your commitment, God may be using your children to speak to you loud and clear.  We are saved by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone, but there must also be evidence of a changed life in us, because God’s Word says,  “Without holiness, no one will see God.”  (Hebrews 12:4)  Jesus said,  “Unless you repent, you too will perish.”  (Luke 13:3)  None of us will ever be perfect, but we must go beyond just believing, because even the demons ‘believe’ (James 2:19) and acknowledged who Jesus is…Mark 1:24, 8:29, Mark 3:11, Luke 4:41, 8:28, Acts 19:15 

God’s Word shows us the transforming work that His Holy Spirit does in a believer’s life, in 2 Corinthians 5:17…  “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!”  We will not be completely changed in an instant, but we are a work in progress, and should have the desire to glorify God with our words and our behavior to be an example to others, and to know His Word well so we can lead unbelievers to know Christ.

I pray that God will bless all of you who are fathers, with His grace that is sufficient, His wisdom to handle all the situations you will face, and His strength to stand strong, so that you will guide them in love and speak words to them that correct and encourage, but not crush their hearts. 

And most importantly, for those of you fathers who know Jesus as your Savior and have made Him Lord of your life, I pray God will give you His words to share the gospel with your sons and your daughters, so they come to know the greatest expression of love that was demonstrated for them.  I also pray they come to know Christ, and express their thankfulness to you for being the wonderful father that they will one day realize you are, even though they may consider you to be ‘the enemy’ for a time.

Thank you for stopping by to read my poems.  God bless you!  And since this was written and posted on Father’s Day, Happy Father’s Day to those of you who are fathers.   : )


“Peter replied,  “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ so that your sins may be forgiven.”  Acts 2:38

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord…”  Acts 3:19

“…I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds.”  Acts 26:20

“You have persevered and have endured hardships for My name, and have not grown weary.  Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love.  Remember the heights from which you have fallen!  Repent and do the things you did at first.  If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place.”  Revelation 2:3-5

“The rest of mankind that were not killed by these plagues still did not repent of the work of their hands; they did not stop worshipping demons, and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone and wood–idols that cannot see or hear or walk.  Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts.”         Revelation 9:20,21



“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”  Ephesians 6:4

“Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”            Colossians 3:20

“Fix these words of Mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down, and when you get up.”  Deuteronomy 11:18-20

“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”  Proverbs 22:6

“Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD.  Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.  Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it.  The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous and His ears are attentive to their cry; the face of the LORD is against those who do evil, to cut off the memory of them from the earth.”  Psalm 34:11-16

“All your sons will be taught by the LORD, and great will be your children’s peace.”  Isaiah 54:13

“Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise; making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”  Ephesians 5:15,16

“Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope you have.  But do this with gentleness and respect…”  1 Peter 3:15

“My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline and do not resent His rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those He loves, as a father the son he delights in.”                Proverbs 2:11

“Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”  2 Timothy 2:22

“Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  Resist him, standing firm in the faith…”  1 Peter 5:8,9

“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.”  Colossians 3:17

“Since you call on a Father who judges each man’s work impartially, live your lives as strangers here in reverent fear.  For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect.”  1 Peter 1:17-19

“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the suthor and perfector of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.  Consider Him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”  Hebrews 12:2,3

“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.”  Colossians 4:2


To all fathers who know Christ, this poem is for you,

Let your life be a reflection of Him who is Holy and true,

Your eyes have been opened, God’s truth you now see,

Make your life count, now and for eternity,

Lead them to know Him through not just what you say,

But let them see Christ, through your life, day by day,

Run from the things that try to lead you to sin,

Let your main focus be on Christ, and pray their hearts He may win,

Let your life be holy, in thought, word, and deed,

For you have been bought with Christ’s blood, from sin you have been freed,

Lead them and guide them, so God’s Word they will know,

In fear of the Lord, wisdom, and discernment, pray they will grow,

Care enough to confront them, so His truth they will see,

The choices they make will affect them now and eternally,

Make the most of every moment, to make them understand,

Their sinful hearts, their loving God, and pray they one day choose to take His hand.


Written and posted on June 20, 2010

Copyright©2010 Mary K. Dalke/Living4HisGlory/LivingForHisGlory

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