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INTRODUCTION

A poem about a child,  who represents many children, and their desperate inner cry for love and approval from their dad:

I did not intend to write another poem this month, but after talking with my daughter last week, what she said caused me to hurt deeply for her, and for my son as well.  Without going into detail about all she said, God helped me to form the main part of  what she shared with me into the following poem.  As I thought about the hurt that my children have experienced in life, I  realized more than ever before, the importance of a dad’s love, encouragement, and being true to their word is to a child, and decided to add some of my thoughts into this poem as well.

I pray that God will use it to make any of you who are fathers, aware of the need for you to not only express your love and encouragement to your children, but also to help you realize how important it is for you to be a man of your word, and for you to do what you tell them you will do…live up to the promises you make to them, as best as humanly possible.  Don’t ever promise or tell your child you are going to do something for them if you have no intention of even doing it.  Always be honest with your child, and when need be, swallow your pride and admit when you are wrong and when you fail them, and when you can speak from your heart, tell them you are sorry.  Children need to be able to trust their dads, (as well as their  moms) and the love and encouragement you also give them, will make them feel secure and help them to better deal with the pressures they face in life .  

Listen to them, making eye contact with them, giving them your full attention, and hear what they are saying, and respond to them by giving them words of encouragement or comfort.  Or sometimes all they need is just a hug, or for you to share a similar experience that you went through, to show them you understand somewhat how they must be feeling.  And let them know that whenever they have a problem, they can always come to you, and you will always be there to listen to them, even though you will not always have the answers.  Sometimes all they need is someone who will listen to them; problems don’t always seem as bad after we express our feelings to someone else.

I know there are some of you who are men who have been hurt and abused by your father, or you may have never really had a close relationship with him, and you feel like you really don’t know how to be a good father to your children.  Or, for whatever reason, you may be afraid to reach out to your children and tell them that you love them, but they need your love, encouragement, and direction and loving discipline more than you can ever imagine.  If I may suggest to you… just treat them how you would have wanted your father to have treated you; with love, concern, and compassion.

Please don’t try to make your child into something you want them to be, or what you wish you could have been.  Love them for who they are, and look for, and point out, all their good qualities.  Tell them how proud you are of them when they accomplish something, and when you have to correct them, do it in love, giving them the reasons you have, so even if they disagree and become angry (and they definitely will at times, and give you the ‘silent treatment’) they will better understand and won’t grow bitter towards you.

And when you have to say, ‘No’ to them for a good reason, please don’t say,  ‘No…because I said so.’ Give them a clear explanation of why you have to say ‘no.’  And if you are a Christian, share Biblical truth with them to point out God’s standards of right and wrong, ‘making the most of every opportunity,’ so they see the difference in what God says compared to the standard our world has for the most part today; hardly any moral absolutes and almost everything  being about ‘tolerance’ and ‘oneness.’

Sharing the truth of God’s Word with them, will help them see through all the chaos and confusion that is now so strongly present in our world.  A world where things that were once clearly wrong, are now accepted, and our world just continues to grow spiritually darker and darker.  Allow God’s Word to be ‘a lamp to their feet and a light for their path.’  (Psalm 119:105)

It has been said that many children have the same view of God as they have of their father, so please try to set a godly, firm, but loving and caring  example of who He is, even though you are far from perfect, as we all are.

Use your words to bless and encourage your son or daughter, no matter how old they are, giving them motivation and hope for their future.  So many children are verbally abused by other children, as well as by adults, and that will cause their confidence level to be very low.  They need to hear words that will inspire them to work hard to accomplish what they desire to be, so they will not give up and lose heart.  No matter what age our children may be, they never outgrow the need for love and approval, especially from their dads.

The first half of the following poem is based on much of what my daughter said, and how my son also feels, and the last portion came about as I reflected on not only how deeply a child is  affected by a lack of love and encouragement from their dad, but also as I thought about the many men who just need God’s love, forgiveness, and healing in their own life, so  that they are then able to give love to their children in return. 

Sadly though, there are some men who just live for themselves, and don’t care about the pain they cause those who love them.  But God’s love can penetrate the hardest heart, and change the vilest of sinners.  He then receives all the glory for changing those whom the world would think would be the last ones to ever change. 

May God bless all of you with an understanding of the love He has for you, and also with His wisdom to raise your children.  I pray for those of you who already have come to know Jesus as Savior and Lord of your life, that you will not only guide them by His love and with Biblical truth, but also and most importantly, I pray that God will help you to lead them  by your example, as you make the choice to live in holiness and to honor Christ day by day, because your actions definitely do speak louder than words; don’t just talk the talk, but, by His grace, also walk the walk.  

God bless all of you, and thank you very much for stopping by and reading my poems.

SCRIPTURES FOR YOU TO REFLECT UPON

When Esau heard his father’s words, he burst out with a loud and bitter cry and said to his father, “Bless me–me too, my father!” (Genesis 27:34)

“He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.” (Malachi 4:6)

“For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes.  Otherwise they might see  with their eyes, hear with their ears,  understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.” (Matthew 13:15)

“The words of his mouth are wicked and deceitful; he has ceased to be wise and to do good.” (Psalm 36:3)

“The LORD is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)

“My mouth will speak words of wisdom; the utterance from my heart will give understanding.” (Psalm 49:3)

“All the words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse.” (Proverbs 8:8)

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of  the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:8)

“The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.” (Proverbs 16:21)

“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24)

“A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” (Proverbs 17:27)

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

“Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” (Colossians 3:21)

“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.  Impress them upon your children.  Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down, and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 6:5-7)

SONGS THAT WILL BRING TEARS TO YOUR EYES, BUT WILL MAKE YOU REALIZE HOW YOU NEED TO TREASURE EVERY MOMENT YOU HAVE WITH YOUR CHILDREN AND MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY MOMENT YOU HAVE WITH THEM, FOR THE DAY COMES ALL TOO SOON WHEN THEY GROW UP AND ARE GONE  

UPDATED 3/19/12 JUST HEARD THIS SONG IN FEB. 2012, AND REALIZED HOW THE WORDS EXPRESS MANY OF THE THOUGHTS MY DAUGHTER HAS SHARED WITH ME  CONCERNING HER DAD AND HOW PERFECT IT WOULD BE FOR THE FOLLOWING POEM

 IF MY HEART COULD SPEAK

If my heart could speak, you would hear it say,

All the unspoken sorrow, I hold tucked away,

How I long to hear that you’re proud of me,

And words of hope to paint a vision of what I could be,

When I tell you my exciting news of days gone by,

You don’t share in my joy, you don’t even try,

You simply just ask, ‘So what else is new?’

I am stunned into silence , and don’t know what to do,

I speak from my heart, but your heart seems so cold,

I don’t feel like you love me, even though I am told,

I need you to show me by not just what you say,

But to do what you tell me you’ll do, day by day,

What you do will build my trust and a bond that is strong,

Say you’re sorry when you fail and hurt me, admit when you’re wrong,

No one is perfect, but my Father above,

But the way that you treat me, makes me even doubt His love,

My worth comes from God, I have heard many say,

But knowing that still doesn’t take all the deep hurt away,

Words and actions can bring healing and blessings, and make all things new,

Or they can crush someone’s spirit, with untold damage they can do,

These thoughts, still unspoken, weigh heavy on my heart,

I pray that one day, God, to you will impart,

The knowledge of His love to expose your sin and heal your own pain,

And maybe some day a wonderful relationship with you I will gain.

Copyright©2011 Mary K. Dalke/Living For His Glory/Living4HisGlory All rights reserved.

Scriptures taken from The Holy Bible New International Version® Copyright©1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved. 

Picture obtained from Photobucket-BedruthanSteps-1

Scripture added by Mary K. Dalke on Photobucket

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INTRODUCTION

If someone asked me to choose just one passage of Scripture from the many favorites that I have, to reflect the main spiritual passion in my heart, it would be…      2 Corinthians 5:11-20. In case you may be wondering why, I will tell you:  Before God opened up my understanding to the ‘good news‘ of the gospel, I tried for many years to earn His acceptance by religious practices and trying to be ‘good enough,’ and I was also filled with an overwhelming and paralyzing fear of death, because of what I was taught growing up as a Catholic. (More on that when I share my testimony).  However, one day when I began to read  the Bible, the truth of God’s Word caused me to question many of the things I had learned in my Catholic doctrine classes, because many of these teachings did not agree with what God’s Word was now saying to me.  As I started to read,  I began to see the depth of His love and mercy that He has towards sinners like me, and God helped me come to understand that Jesus paid my debt to sin in full,  because He died in my place (and yours) on the cross!  (I will go into great detail when I share my testimony in the near future).  Why was it that we, as Catholics, were never told these amazing truths? 

The realization of the depth of the love that God has for me (and you) and the extent He went to, so that (you and) I could become His child and be set free from the control that sin has on me (and all of us),  filled me with His amazing  peace and joy, and gave me the assurance that I would be in heaven  whenever my life would end.  I was filled with an urgency to share the joyous truth that God had revealed to me in His Word with everyone!   And as it says in 2 Corinthians 5, ‘Christ’s love did compel me’ to  reach out to whomever God would bring my way, so they could also hear that they could be reconciled to God, by placing their trust in what Jesus had already done for them, and not in anything they could ever do.

As God’s Word says,  “Make the most of every opportunity,” (Ephesians 5:16, Colossians 4:5) and that I did… The first thing that I was strongly led to do, (which I also mentioned in at least one other introduction)  was to put a tract called,  ‘How A Roman Catholic Can Be Sure Of Heaven’  on every windshield of every car in the parking lot of the Catholic church I used to attend, during the time people were at ‘Mass,’ and finished just as they began to come out of church.

Every stranger who came to my home, every person who helped me when my 1978 Chevy Monza would die out, (and trust me, that happened many times) every opportunity God gave me, I gave each person a tract or Bible, and when there was enough time, I shared my testimony with them, as well. 

When any Jehovah’s Witness or Mormon would come to my door, I saw them as devoted and deceived as I had been, and God filled me with compassion and a deep desire to share His truth with them that He had revealed to me. 

This is equally my  spiritual passion…to share Biblical truth with those who have been spiritually deceived.  It takes a lot of prayer and self-control to stay loving, because it can be very frustrating trying to help them see the truth, and it also means we need to take a lot of time reading and studying  God’s Word, because we can get very confused when they share their beliefs with us, as I found out .  😦  

 We also need to remember it is a spiritual battle, (Ephesians 6:12) and that they have been blinded by Satan, so that they are unable to see the light of the gospel’ (2 Corinthians 4:4) and therefore we must have  a total dependency upon God for wisdom to speak the right words that they need to hear to cause them to think, especially when Jehovah’s Witnesses (and possibly Mormons, as well), are told not to do any ‘independent thinking.’  And when we have said and done all we have been led by God to do, we must release them to God and trust Him to do the work that only He is able to do and not feel that we have failed if they did not respond to the truth we shared with them, because it’s only ‘God who has the power to cause the seeds of truth that He allows us to plant in their hearts, the ability to grow.’  (1 Corinthians 3:7)

God bless you, and thank you very much for stopping by and taking time out of your busy day to read my poems.

SCRIPTURES FOR YOU TO REFLECT ON

“So we make it our goal to please Him, whether we are at home in the  body or away from it. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body whether good or bad. Since, then, we know what it is to fear the Lord, we try to persuade men.  What we are is plain to God, and I hope it is also plain to your conscience. We are not trying to commend ourselves to you again, but are giving you an opportunity to take pride in us, so that you can answer those who take pride in what is seen rather than in what is in the heart. If we are out of our mind, it is for the sake of God; if we are in our right mind, it is for you. For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for Him who died for them and was raised again. So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view.  Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to Himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them.  And He has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making His appeal through us.  We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 Corinthians 5:9-20)

“Seek the LORD while He may be found; call on Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way and the evil man his thoughts.  Let him turn to the LORD, and He will have mercy on him, and to our God, for He will freely pardon. “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,”  declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is My Word that goes out from My mouth: it will not return to Me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.  You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace…”  (Isaiah 55:6-12)

“For the preaching of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”  (1 Corinthians 1:18)

“For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing.”  (2 Corinthians 2:15)

“And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing.”                        (2 Corinthians 4:3)

“Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God?  Or am I trying to please men?  If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10)

“On the contrary, we speak as men approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel.   We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts.” (1 Thessalonians 2:4)

“Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15)

“Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.”  (Colossians 4:5)

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”            (Proverbs 14:12, 16:25)

“Enter through the narrow gate.  For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”  (Matthew 7:13)

“Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone to obey him as slaves, you are slaves to the one whom you obey–whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?” (Romans 6:16)

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)

“Jesus answered,  “I am the way and the truth and the life.  No one comes to the Father  except through Me.” (John 14:6)

“Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.” (Acts 4:12)

“For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave Himself as a ransom for all men-.” (1 Timothy 2:5,6)

“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.”  (2 Corinthians 7:10)

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.  That is why for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties.  For when I am weak, then I am strong.”                        (2 Corinthians12:9,10)

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing  may come from the Lord.” (Acts 3:19)

“I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds.” (Acts 26:20)

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

COMPELLED

The love of Christ should compel us, to reach out to the lost

To share the gospel message, no matter what the cost

To look for every single moment  that we can make His truth be known

And trust by God’s Holy Spirit, His truth they will be shown

We need to speak His Word in love, to expose the lies of men

In spite of past rejection, let’s do it once again

For we should not seek the praise of men, we should desire to please the Lord

The eternal consequences of remaining silent, is a price we can’t afford

People caught up in deception, need to hear the truth God has revealed to you

 and me

For many are headed for destruction, but Christ came to set the captives free

Some blinded by false doctrine, seeking truth but led astray

Need to hear the gospel message, that will give them God’s wisdom and power

 to turn away

Others held captive by their sin, now under its control

Need more than just God’s love, they need His Word to light their darkened path

 and to free their troubled soul

Will you choose to remain silent, or will you let your voice be heard

God will accomplish what He desires, we just need to be faithful to speak His Word

Copyright©2011 Mary K. Dalke/Living For His Glory/Living4HisGlory All rights reserved.

Scriptures taken from The Holy Bible New International Version® Copyright©1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved.

Picture obtained from Photobucket-‘Polurrian Sunset’ by GLHPhotos

Scripture added by Mary K. Dalke on Photobucket

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