Sad but true, pornography is called — among many things — ‘the secret sin of the church.’  The statistics are 1 in 10 pastors admit to visiting a porn site once a week, 30 to 50% of women who call themselves Christians admit to being addicted to porn, and the statistics are much higher for men; at least 70% of men who profess to be Christians admit to having a serious addiction to viewing pornographic material on a rather consistent basis.  I heard those statistics on the radio concerning a survey that was taken by ‘Focus On The Family,’  and wrote them down.  As with any survey — especially one such as this, where many choose not to admit their addiction to pornography — the statictics are bound to be much higher than recorded. 

But for those of us who are professing Christians, why is it that some of us are controlled by something so twisted, distorted, and perverted such as pornography?  For those of us who are married, don’t we realize how emotionally damaging this is to our mates?  Could it be that some of us have professed Christ just with our lips, and we have yet to truly repent of our sins?  Why is there not a fear of God in our hearts that will bring us to our knees in deep remorse out of hatred for our sins enough to turn from them?  Well, the videos below and the thoughts that came together as I prayed about writing this poem will deal with some of these issues, and the truth in the Scriptures I posted below I pray will not only expose your sins, but also bring hope and victory to you over your addictions.  For it’s only through Christ that forgiveness and freedom is found to destroy the bondage to sin.  And God’s Word has the power to cleanse and to renew our minds and to free us from the sins of the flesh that only destroy the beauty of this expression of love that was meant to be only between a man and a woman in marriage — no matter what society says today!

This poem came together as I first thought about a comment that my first Bible study teacher shared with us… ‘Your commitment to Christ will be shown, by what you do when you’re all alone.’  That thought made an impact on my life; hearing that, plus some Bible verses she shared with us about how God sees all that we do, was enough to convict me as a new Christian.  Even though I immediately was convicted of watching movies with sexual content after I first became a Christian, God used what my Bible study teacher shared with us to end the excuses for watching anything that even began to stir those desires within me!  (Song of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4)

For those of us who are single, we especially need to guard our hearts and protect our minds from allowing Satan to use the genuine godly desire we have — to one day find someone to share life with and to marry, and then to be able to express our love in a deeply intimate way —  to overpower and control us and lead us into sin.  Instead of giving in to temptations, we must make the choice to surrender our desires to God, and walk by the Spirit so that we will not gratify the desires of our sinful nature.  (Romans 13:14, Galatians 5:16) 

Since July is ‘Pornography Awareness Month,’ I decided to post it now, and would have posted it sooner, but because I had been so concerned about what is happening at my former church, Harvest Bible Chapel, and it took over a month to express some of my concerns in the ‘Introduction’ of my poem, WARNING YOU WITH TEARS I am a little behind. I hope and pray that God will somehow use this poem, ‘WHO ARE YOU,’  for His glory, and His Word for your correction, conviction, encouragement, and ultimately for your freedom.

Most of this poem was written last year, but I hesitated to post it.  However, it seemed that almost every time I would get into my car and drive to work, I would hear something about the destructive nature of pornography!  I wrote my thoughts and some of those things down, and posted them below…

  • April 4, 2011 As I continue to hold off finishing this poem, ‘Who Are You,’ I keep hearing information on pornography.  I heard last week on WMBI that the top ten searches on the Internet for children between the ages of 7 and 10 includes porn!  Then today, I was listening to a video that had nothing to do with the problem of pornography, but the subject was brought up and the pastor said how we as Christians are to cut these things out of our lives and how it has such a negative and destructive affect on how men view women.  I am sure the same can be said about how women view men, as well!

  • June 2011 Again, I was listening to a video that had nothing to do with pornography, but heard the pastor say something about pornography; 50% of women are addicted to porn, and porn will cause a ‘tsunami of sex crimes.’  I think God wants me to address this destructive sinful addiction, and will finish this poem!

  • June 13th 2011 Berean Beacon posted a video on porn.  (Decided not to post that video because it was rather graphic; I didn’t even finish listening to it).

  • August 2, 2011 On my way to work heard another program on WMBI about pornography.

  • Came across another video that expresses to men their need to guard their hearts and minds, and to treat women with respect and not take advantage of them.  (See video #4).

Your comments are welcomed, but any vulgar or obscene comments will not be published.

Thank you for stopping by and taking time out of your busy day to read some of my poems and posts.

God Bless You

~Mary Dalke/Living4HisGlory








“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.”  (Job 31:1)

“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.”  (Psalm 19:14)

“I did not send these prophets, yet they have run with their message; I did not speak to them, yet they have prophesied.  But if they had stood in My council, they would have proclaimed My Words to My people and would have turned them from their evil ways and from their evil deeds.  “Am I only a God nearby,”  declares the LORD,  “and not a God far away?  Can anyone hide in secret places so that I cannot see him?”  declares the LORD.  “Do I not fill heaven and earth?” (Jeremiah 23:21-24)

“Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight.  Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.” (Hebrews 4:13)

“Since then you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God.  Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.  For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.  When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.  Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.  Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.  You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived.  But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.  Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self which is being renewed in the knowledge in the image of its Creator.” (Colossians 3:1-10)

“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–His good, pleasing, and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)

“The hour has come for you to wake up from your slumber, because our salvation is nearer now then when we first believed.  The night is nearly over; the day is almost here.  So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.  Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.  Rather clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” (Romans 13:11-14) 

“So I say live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” (Galatians 5:16)

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

“Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God?  Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.  And that is what some of you were.  But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

“So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do.”They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts.  Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.  You, however, did not come to know Christ that way.  Surely you heard of Him and were taught in Him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus.  You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”                   (Ephesians 4:17-24)

“Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; with holiness no one will see the Lord.” (Hebrews 12:14)

“…for it is written:  “Be holy, because I am holy.” (1 Peter 1:16)

“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sins’s deceitfulness.”  (Hebrews 3:13)

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” (Hebrews 12:1) 

“Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)

“His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness.  Through these He has given us His very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.  For this very reason make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.” (2 Peter 1:3-7)

“Why do you call me,  ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?”  (Luke 6:46)

Jesus said…”But unless you repent, you too will all perish.” (Luke 13:3,5)

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” (Acts 3:19)

“In the past God overlooked such ignorance, but now He commands all people everywhere to repent.” (Acts 17:30)

“…I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds.” (Acts 26:20)

“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation, and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.” (2 Corinthians 7:10)

“For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men.  It teaches us to say,  “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age while we wait for the blessed hope–the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for Himself a people that are His very own, eager to do what is good.”  (Titus 2:11-14)

“The rest of mankind that were not killed by these plagues still did not repent of the work of their hands; they did not stop worshiping demons, and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone and wood–idols that cannot see or hear or walk. Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts. (Revelation 9:21)

“They were seared by the intense heat and they cursed the name of God, who had control over these plagues, but they refused to repent and glorify Him.”  (Revelation 16:9)

“Men gnawed their tongues in agony and cursed the God of heaven because of their pains and their sores, but they refused to repent of what they had done.”  (Revelation 16:10b,11)

computer-man-close-up-002WHO ARE YOU?

Who are you when no one is watching?

Who are you when you cannot be seen?

What images do you allow into your mind,

Or on your t.v. or computer screen?

If Jesus were to now visibly appear at your side,

Would there be something you’d want to quickly delete or hide,

From the eyes of Him who is holy and true,

Even though He already knows all that you do?

Would what you view bring Him glory,

Or would it fill Him with disgust,

Are you growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ,

Or are you feeding an ungodly lust,

Many women suffer in silence, some feel completely abused,

Rather than feeling loved, their husbands only make them feel used,

Some women are wrecklessly treated as objects for pleasure,

Instead of someone to be loved; a person to value and treasure,

The innocence of a child –robbed by someone they thought they could


Someone who wickedly acts out what they viewed; a mind that has been

perverted and controlled by lust,

If God is truly reigning in your heart,

Then now is the time for you to start,

To put to death those desires that war within,

And cause you in your mind and heart to lead you to sin,

Secret sins exposed by His light,

Are no longer in darkness, they’re now in plain sight,

If you are His child you must make the choice,

To turn from these destructive sins and respond to His voice,

Your deliverance is waiting, your forgiveness as well,

Refusing repentance will only lead you to hell,

Secret sins exposed by His light,

Will shatter your darkness, and if you’re willing to fight,

He’ll give you His strength so you’re no longer weak,

And give you the victory so for His glory you’ll speak…

Bringing correction and hope through Christ to all who are bound, 

By these sins of the flesh, so that freedom through repentance and

Christ then can be found.

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Scriptures taken from The Holy Bible New International Version® 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society.  Used by permission of Zondervan.  All rights reserved.

“Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and He delivered them from their distress.  He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom and broke away their chains.  Let them give thanks to the LORD for His unfailing love and His wonderful deeds for men, for He breaks down gates of bronze and cuts through bars of iron.” (Psalm 107:13-16) 

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